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Stress Seminar
So I am way over due for a blog post and I am at work on a new seminar about stress management. Especially how it relates to being a mom of small children. As always I will record the session and have it online afterwards for viewing. Here are the details if anyone wants to come. Remember it is Free
Save the date for my next seminar. May 21 @ 7:30 pm. Here are the details https://www.eventbrite.com/e/free-stress-management-seminar-tickets-11366418263
Rekindling the romance
It was my 5 year anniversary last week and I had the opportunity to spend 2 days alone with my husband and I learned a very interesting thing, I actually love him and even better I like him. I was so scared to go home because I knew that the minute we walked in the house that we would go back into our parenting roles and the stress would resume.
Ha, I was right, we were back for 10 minutes and I felt as if the entire 2 days was zapped out of me. The question that remains is how do you rekindle the romance? I could say date nights? We do those and I am still tired and stressed about the day so trying to unwind while recognizing I might have to get up in the middle of the night just puts a damper on it. Is the only answer going away without the children? I sure hope not, lets find out if anyone else has an idea.
Does anyone have any good ideas on how to rekindle the romance?
How to deal with burnout as a parent?
I am really glad that I waited to write this post today instead of 2 days ago when I was feeling burnt out because I have such a different perspective on what burn out is and how to avoid it. As I said, 2 days ago, it was scary, I had such a busy day with the kids and I was just so tired and no amount of caffeine would help me, and just the thought of waking up the next day and doing it all over again made me feel exhausted. I am sure that everyone feels burn out from parenting whether you are a stay at home parent or working. How do you deal with it and move forward?
1. Find a way to relax: After my busy days, I am usually working more but after I had to use the “B” word (burnout) I realized I needed a break, so I took one. I took a bath by myself, read my book and went to bed!
2. Ask for help: There is no shame and admitted your kids are driving you crazy and you need to relieve yourself of parenting duties. Whether it’s a babysitter, spouse, family member or friend, get help and get it quick. Everyone understands and there is no guilt involved in wanting a break.
3. Plans: I do not know about you, but when I have either date night planned or a vacation planned, I count down the days. Plan something even if its with the kids. On vacation, relax and let someone else take over.
Last but not least, do what I did and take a few days, regroup and realize that you cannot always handle everything and take a step back from your life to realize how great your kids really are!
Dealing With Disappointment
As a mother, husband, daughter and friend I am always dealing with disappointment. I find my self struggling a times dealing with it and have to remember how I can help myself regroup and get through another day.
- Therapy – Some of you might think that this should be at the end of the list, but really why? If you are struggling with how to deal with something and you have the know how to get the right help then therapy would be the easiest way to do that.
- Talking – Well, this does happen a lot in therapy of course but I mean talking to the party that disappointed you. I bet they have no clue they did and I am a big believer in letting others know how you feel.
- Coping – As painful as getting to the gym is, once I leave I always feel better and I am more able to handle my day. Exercising is my stress relief but you can do any of them in order to feel better and move forward.
- Breathe – Yes, we do this one by itself but still when you are upset it is a good idea to focus on your breathing and calm the world around you.
- Tomorrow is another day – When life gets too complicated, sleep is the best medicine you can have. Today was disappointing but there is nothing written that tomorrow needs to be the same way. Enjoy the fact that you can go to bed and wake up with zero disappointments on your plate!
I am sure there are other ways to deal with disappointment and of course there are many unhealthy ways to do it as well. Can you think of positive/optimistic ways to deal with disappointment? If so I would love to hear about it in the comment section.