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Gratitude
April 5, 2020
How’s everyone doing? Who’s handling this well and who’s ready for a break? We started online learning this week and to say it’s been an adjustment is a nice way to say it!! So, what should we talk about today and this week? I have been thinking a lot about gratitude and ways to stay connected, especially those rituals of connection. It is so easy to lose sight of what’s important right now, but of course I believe it is even more important to remember. So, here’s my list of what I am grateful for today!
- My health– I am being super careful and following stay at home orders so I am healthy.
- Family– We have been spending some quality time together and we have been exercising as a family which has been great for all of us.
- My relationships-I am staying connected to the people that mean something for me and I am working hard at staying connected as a couple at this time.
- Patience– Not sure how I would be getting through this without patience and understanding of what is really important in this world.
- Stress reducing conversations– This is high on the list of rituals that are being done everyday. As a couple, we are working to talk about our stress and not taking it out on each other.
- At home dates– I know this might sound hard, but it’s really as easy as lighting some candles, having some tea or drink, talking, playing a game or something more! Whatever you decide to do, make sure you put those distractions away while you do it.
- Forgiveness- Most importantly, I’m being kind to myself and forgiving my mistakes right now, checking in with myself and making sure I know I’m doing the best I can!
Each night, I go through what worked, what didn’t work and what I can improve on tomorrow. In the morning, I can luckily reset from the night before and work on doing better today. Life is just like that, it gives us a reset everyday. Let’s not harbor on what went wrong yesterday, let’s work on what went right and how we can continue to improve on what went right today!
I’m thankful that I get to do what I love and I’m looking forward to hearing from you on what you are finding grateful during this new time in our lives. Hit me up and tell me how you are doing. I really do what to know and let me know if I can support you in any way during this new time.
Hopefully, at least a few of my words were helpful to you and you can find a reset each day to learn how to forgive and learn more and more until next time.
Remember it’s all a work in progress!
I’m angry! Are you?
June 11, 2019
Happy summer to you! I sometimes talk about myself in sessions and I always get looks of relief to know that yes, I get mad at my husband, my kids, my family and YES, I am human.
Here’s the trick to anger, at least for me. It’s really how you deal with it that is how you feel afterwards.
I’m kind of a sensitive person and I take things to heart. I’m also a giver and I love to make other people happy. I know these things about myself and I also know that I’m a yeller and my husband is the quiet one.
I really don’t like being the yeller in the family. If you meet me, you wouldn’t think I’m the yeller so you know what I did one day? I decided I wasn’t going to yell anymore! You ask me how I did that? I really didn’t like the way I felt after yelling was over. Besides the fact that my throat was hurting me, I really didn’t like who I was. Yes, I was a bit scary.
How do you change?
So, how do you change something about yourself when you want to? Let’s break it down.
Know thyself!
I couldn’t really do this if I didn’t understand why I was yelling. I could blame my husband for this because he’s the silent one and I need communication, but what good would that do. I had to really look deep into myself and figure out the reasons I was yelling. Once I did that, I was able to change the way I spoke when I got angry.
No blaming
As I just said, it’s so easy to blame someone else. “Well, if they would talk more, I wouldn’t yell so much.” Nope, no way, that’s not how it works. Nobody makes you do anything. If I want to change myself, I have to change myself. Changing the people around me is not going to work.
Less stress, more calm
I like to think I’m a calm person, but if I’m yelling, am I really a calm person? Nope. So what can I do to calm myself when I feel like yelling? I can exercise, take some deep breaths, read, or anything to calm me down instead of yelling.
Trial and error
Anytime you want to change something about yourself, it is tough stuff! Even if you know it’s good for you to do, give yourself some breaks, please. We are so hard on ourselves and we need to be gentle. If you mess up, try again. Eventually, you will get it if you work hard enough on it.
So, do I still get angry?
Of course I do, it’s part of life and I’m only human. Do I yell still? Not so much and I feel as if I’ve grown from it. Yes, it’s possible to evolve if you want to.
Do you want to change how you deal with anything? If so, give me a shout and let me know.
Here’s 2014, Now What?
January 5, 2014
Ok, so we all have a clean slate for 2014 new ideas, new goals, etc so I am wondering how to take this and make myself a better person. This sounds so easy right! Love to think so but cannot always just do therapy on myself. Ever since January 1, I have been trying to be happier and one way that I am working on is me time. I tell people all the time that they need to focus on themselves, well I exercise, eat right and get enough sleep. I also drink more coffee than ever before and as a mom, my stress level is high. I strive to be a great mom and a great wife but why don’t I strive to find peace and relaxation in my own life?
That is the big question that I am going to work on in 2014. I have recently taken a few yoga classes and realize that this might be the way to go. Yesterday, I handed the reins to my husband and took a me day, it was great for them and great for me. I am always striving to do better in business, parenting and being a better partner but somewhere along the way, I stopped trying to be better for myself, well watch out because 2014 is my year and I am going to make it even better for myself!