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Teaching and learning how to be disappointed

by : Dr. Lagrotte

Parenting

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July 15, 2015

Okay, this is a very personal blog but that is what this is for to talk, learn and to listen.  I had the pleasure of learning so many lessons this morning dropping my children off at camp that it had to be remembered and shared to experience life as it comes.

My children love “mommy camp” but as we all know, I work and need time away from them so I have them signed up for camp a few weeks this summer.  Today was the first day back at camp after 2 weeks of “mommy camp”.  As we were approaching the door, the tears started and they got worse and worse.  I did my usual things to try to calm them down.  I say them because the older one was upset and the younger one was upset because the older one was crying. Yes, lovely right, you are trying to make one stop crying and the other starts.

Well, at a point I decided I had to leave.  I got the promises, the guilt, the everything and realized I had to make a run for it.  Why, because I had things scheduled that I could not miss which now I am so thankful for and grateful once again for my wonderful supportive husband because once I got to the parking lot I called him in tears mind you and he was great!  Said all the things I needed to hear and the best part is that he is right.

We need to let our children be uncomfortable and experience life and learn how to deal with disappointment.  As adults we deal with disappointment all the time but why do we, at least I think that we should shield our children from it.  I knew once I left they would calm down and have fun, but it was so hard leaving.  I believe with the support of my husband I did the right thing and taught them and myself a valuable lesson today on how to deal with disappointment.

As I was sitting in the parking lot, I had one mother tell me my children were crying and another telling me that sometimes you just have to let them cry.  No matter what you believe, I do believe that we need to teach them they cannot get their way all the time and that they need to do what is expected of them just because they are children and parents make up the rules.

So, do you want to know how it turned out?  Of course it was great! Picked them up, ate their lunch and I was told, “Mommy, I had so much fun and even met a new friend.”  Geez what was I worried about.  The bottom line is that for me I need to trust my training and my mommy instincts in order to let my children learn about life!

Dealing With Disappointment

by : Dr. Lagrotte

Lifestyle

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September 1, 2013

As a mother, husband, daughter and friend I am always dealing with disappointment.  I find my self struggling a times dealing with it and have to remember how I can help myself regroup and get through another day.

  1. Therapy – Some of you might think that this should be at the end of the list, but really why?  If you are struggling with how to deal with something and you have the know how to get the right help then therapy would be the easiest way to do that.
  2. Talking – Well, this does happen a lot in therapy of course but I mean talking to the party that disappointed you.  I bet they have no clue they did and I am a big believer in letting others know how you feel.
  3. Coping – As painful as getting to the gym is, once I leave I always feel better and I am more able to handle my day.   Exercising is my stress relief but you can do any of them in order to feel better and move forward.
  4. Breathe – Yes, we do this one by itself but still when you are upset it is a good idea to focus on your breathing and calm the world around you.
  5. Tomorrow is another day – When life gets too complicated, sleep is the best medicine you can have.  Today was disappointing but there is nothing written that tomorrow needs to be the same way.  Enjoy the fact that you can go to bed and wake up with zero disappointments on your plate!

I am sure there are other ways to deal with disappointment and of course there are many unhealthy ways to do it as well.  Can you think of positive/optimistic ways to deal with disappointment?  If so I would love to hear about it in the comment section.