Couples

How Do You Focus on the Big Picture?

by : Dr. Lagrotte

CouplesGottman MethodTherapy

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So, how did you two first meet? When couples come to me for the first time, as we get started I ask them, “So, how did you two first meet?”  This is met by a few different reactions. They do tell me but then they go straight into problem talk.  How do we focus on…
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How do you check in with your partner?

by : Dr. Lagrotte

CouplesFamily

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Hi, it’s Spring Break over here and I’m writing for the first time in a long time. As most of you know, our town of Parkland has had an enormous tragedy and we all all trying to do the best we can with finding our way through this and everything else. So I mentioned it’s…
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Make Some Couples Time

by : Dr. Lagrotte

CouplesFamilyParenting

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Yes, you can make couples time Have you ever heard the phrase, “You know you have children when having a 5 minute conversation takes all day.”  This is a joke of course, but is it?  We spend so much time on our children and what time we have left we spend on what?  Umm, that’s…
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How Do You Know if Your Partner is Supportive?

by : Dr. Lagrotte

CouplesTherapy

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It’s Tough If anyone is wondering, yes, it’s extremely hard to be married or in a relationship with a therapist, especially a therapist that specializes in couples. Why, you ask? Well, if you can’t fix your own relationship, how can you fix others?  At least that’s how I view it.  I tell my clients all…
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Five Things I Use In My Own Relationship to Stay Happy

by : Dr. Lagrotte

CouplesStress

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Your Relationship in 2018 I hope everyone is off to a good start of 2018.  I’m so happy to be doing what I love and taking care of myself. I tell all my clients that there is nothing that I tell them that I don’t do in my own relationship so I thought I’d share…
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How to Be an Advanced Listener

by : Dr. Lagrotte

CouplesGottman Method

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I figured I would give you a little time to read my last post “How to be a Great Listener” before I wrote this as a follow-up. Listening is so important in how you relate to your partner and so many people don’t do it. Are you listening on how to be an advanced listener?…
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Staying connected and sane during the holidays

by : Dr. Lagrotte

CouplesFamilyStress

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What do you say about the holidays? “Wahoo, they’re here” or “oh no, they’re here already?” Either way they are busy times for families whether you are traveling, hosting family or even gathering with friends. How will you stay connected and sane?

How to Be a Great Listener

by : Dr. Lagrotte

CouplesGottman Method

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Are you listening? Does your partner say all the time “you never listen” or “you have no idea what that even means?”  You’re there and hearing the words that someone else is saying, so doesn’t that make you a great listener?  Well, to answer your question, if your partner doesn’t think you’re a good listener…
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How much should you work on your relationship for it to work?

by : Dr. Lagrotte

CouplesTherapy

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This is the biggest question I get asked when couples come to see me.  How much should I work on my relationship?  The bigger question that comes from this is “how do I work on my relationship?”  Where Do I Start? When I meet people, they’re usually not in a good place in their relationship,…
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