As school starts again and summer winds down I am thinking to myself how to answer the question if sleeping in the same bedroom or apart is better for a relationship. Sometimes it can be beneficial to both partners to sleep in separate bedrooms then again learning how to compromise on differences and come together to share a bed is what a marriage is based on right? Seems as if both sides of the conversation have merit so let’s break it down.

Pros to sleeping in the same bed

Till death do us part. That is what they say in the marriage vows. The good and the bad are in there as well isn’t it? If so, then shouldn’t sleeping in the same bedroom just make sense? Some of the reasons that I see as it can benefit a relationship are.

1. You can learn to compromise- So much of marriage is compromise and sharing a bed is at the top of the list. You need to be okay with snoring, rolling around, making noises and so much more.
2. It can help you stay connected- Yup you’re busy and don’t have a lot of time to spend together so you take advantage of pillow talk/sharing at night, maybe even some sex because you’re attracted to your partner. Being in the same bed helps you physically connect with your partner.
3. Saves space- Well this one is easy because if you don’t have the space to sleep in separate bedrooms then you have to learn to share so share you do!

Pros to sleeping in separate beds

1. Getting a good night’s sleep- Yup so important. You can find other ways to connect if you’re not sleeping in the same bed, especially if you are well-rested.
2. Less to fight about- Ah who needs to fight when they are well rested? If your partner is loud, snores or has different sleep patterns than you, then you don’t have to worry about them. Just say goodnight and I love you and get your zzzzzzzzzzzzzz.
3. Just need a break- If you need a break from your partner and saying it is so much better than not. Be honest, say how you feel, and say what you need. Both of you will sleep better knowing your communication is clear!

Which one is better?

If you have been reading up to this point then I’m going to let you decide. It is such a personal choice and one that is couple-specific. I do ask that you talk to your partner and decide together and do what works best for your unique situation.

Let me know what you think about this!