Happy summer to you.  I hope you’re doing well.  This topic was on my mind since my children are in camp and I have some time to myself without the hassle and bustle of school.

What does it mean to be in a relationship but still yourself? 

I get when people say, yeah, when they’re with me, they’re my partner, but not with me, they act as if they’re single.

Nope, that’s NOT okay in my book, is it okay in your book?

What do you do if you want to make changes in your relationship but your partner is a hard NO WAY to counseling.  This is couples counseling for one!

First, let’s break down some of the reasons your partner doesn’t want to come to counseling.

• Counseling is scary- Anyone that has been in my room knows counseling is NOT scary, it’s real for sure. Especially with me because there’s no sugar coating things, but your relationship can be scary at times as well.

• I’m content and happy- This might be completely true.  Your partner might not have anything to work on and you want them to come to counseling to work on things.  This can also go back to the scary part.

• Busy, busy, busy- Yep, this is real and you are busy and you need to find some time to work on your stuff.  Travel, children, work, life, etc all take up time. Hint hint, your relationship does as well!

Okay, these are just a few reasons someone might not want to come to couples counseling.  Do you see anywhere on that list that your partner doesn’t love you? Nope, just because your partner isn’t ready to go to counseling with you doesn’t mean they don’t care, it just means they’re not ready.

What does all this mean for you?

Of course you can come to counseling by yourself!  We can work on your relationship if your partner is not in the room, will just be us working on things for you to bring home to your partner.  Can you grow together if only one of you is working? Yep, you can! And I’d like to challenge you to come in, see how it works and realize that there’s hope.

If you’re thinking about counseling, you love counseling but your partner doesn’t, then couples counseling for one is perfect for you.  

Spread the word

Let everyone know that you can go to counseling by yourself even if you’re in a relationship just like you can go to eat by yourself and proudly say, “Table for one.”

I just updated my counsleing for one page and here’s the link https://www.facetofacetherapy.com/therapy-services/marriage-therapy/counseling-for-one/ 

I look forward to hearing what you think about couples counseling for one!