I get a ton of calls and emails about counseling and I’ve helped people out who aren’t a good fit for me.  It gets a bit more complicated when you are looking for couple’s therapy and then the conversation goes a bit deeper.  

Let’s see if we are a good fit to work together.

Not a Good Fit

• You are looking for someone that takes insurance – Okay, here’s my take on insurance.  With any insurance company they need a diagnosis.  Even if you are going to individual therapy, they will require a diagnosis.  Who thinks there’s a diagnosis for couples’ therapy? There isn’t, but unfortunately, there still needs to be an identified patient and only one person gets billed.  Nope, not what I’m into. I’ll happily help you submit your receipts to get reimbursed, but that’s up to you. I’ll also suggest if you want to use your insurance, look at your insurance panel for people in your network!

• If you are working on something that your not willing to share – I can only help you if you let me.  If you hide things from me and hide things from yourself, then therapy will not be a good fit and I especially will not be a good fit.

• You’re not ready to change – Therapy only works if you want it to work.  If you’re coming to make your partner happy or thinking they’ll change because you came, then it won’t work out for us.

Let’s Work Together

• Ready, set, go – You’ve done the work to accept that things need to be different and you’re willing to make changes in yourself.

• Regularity is the key – As with everything, the more you do it, the easier it is. Practice makes perfect.  Why oh why do we not prioritize our own relationships and self-care? If you’re starting therapy, let’s make a commitment to set aside some time for it.  It’s just an hour of your day and it’s so very cool when you’re present and ready to work!

• You’re ready but your partner isn’t –  Being happy or even content in your life has nothing to do with anyone else.  If you’re ready, pick up the phone and make an appointment. If you’re not, then don’t.  If you’re waiting for the right time, I can tell you there is no right time. Let’s do this.

I’m interested helping, right?

There are a ton more reasons to work together than not.  I’m only interested in helping people become better versions of themselves or remember why you fell in love with all those lovely quirks but now they annoy you.

When you make the decision to go to therapy, it should be a huge relief because now you have someone that can help you understand all those things that you don’t understand yourself.  Shew, sounds good right. Hope so, let’s put the NOT’s aside and thing of the reasons to do this.

Look forward to connecting soon.

If you’re wondering if therapy is right for you, here’s a quiz to take https://www.facetofacetherapy.com/quiz/relationship-need-counseling