I’ve been noticing a trend of mine. I ask, “What’s your love language?” I often get blank stares on this one so I explain and discuss the five love languages.

I’m a huge fan of knowing your love language. You take the quiz, find out the results, but then what should you do with them?

Let’s recap the 5 love languages for just a minute.

Physical Touch

This is the hand holding, hugging, kissing and need to be touched.

Verbal/Words of Affirmation

This is saying how you feel such as, “I love you.”

Gifts

This is when you receive something and it makes you feel special.

Quality time

Spending time together makes you happy.

Acts of service

Chores, cleaning, doing, anything that involves doing something around the house or in your life.

Okay, who thinks that two people in a relationship will have the same love language? Well, if you are attracted to someone that’s different than you and sees different things than you, of course they will be different. If you’re all about the sameness, they are likely be the same.

We need to break it down on how this works and what you need to do, right? It’s not enough just knowing your love language because you probably already know that. The more important piece to this puzzle is, do you know your partner’s love language?

I’m going to bold this and make it a big deal because it is.

YOU NEED TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR PARTNER USING THEIR LOVE LANGUAGE

Well, are you saying that you will if they know and ackowedgle yours? Nope, that’s not how this works. If you wait to receive without giving, then you will not get what you want. If you want to receive, you need to give.

Let’s say for example that partner A has a love language of Acts of Service and partner B has the love language Physical Touch. Oh boy! Those 2 love languages are so different. That means if partner A wants physical touch, partner A needs to do acts of service. Do you know what their acts of service are? I’m guessing you don’t so you’re going to need to ask. Is it making dinner or going food shopping? Figure out what they are and do them. In return, you will need to ask for your love language which is a hug or a kiss and Bam, you are flying high!!

What happens when life gets busy and you’re both stressed out and just want to receive without giving? Well, you’re not going to receive or give and then the fights happen. To avoid all of that, give and receive to get what you want, which is a mutually agreeable relationship!!

PS. Here is my video series on love languages if you want a more in-depth look on love languages.  I also have a Free Report on Love Languages.

I’m looking forward to hearing from you after you take your love language quiz and find out what language you have.