I meet all kinds of people and I really love that about my job. I get to change and evolve with the people I meet. I get asked the same questions all the time and one of them that is top on my list is always “Are we too different to work?”

The answer to this is simple

If you are trying to change your partner into you, then what would that really look like? I also hear all the time, “If my partner would just do what I want all the time, we would be happier.” In order for these two things to occur, you would need to marry yourself. Soes that sound appealing to you?

When we find our match

When we find our match, we find someone who is compatible with us, not carbon copies of us. We want someone who has the same general ideas about religion, finances, children, etc. Basically the big stuff.

Can you live with someone who is as messy as you or as neat? If you are a saver, do you want another saver?  Or would you like a spender to push your boundaries a little?  There’s a fine line between being incompatible opposites and just being different enough to make things work.

My husband’s point of view

I enjoy listening to my husband’s point of view for the most part. There are some times I look at him as if he has two heads with the ideas he is proposing. In the end, I do appreciate his different take on things and over the years I have learned to let go of my “things” and accept his.  Such as I am a planner and he is spur of the moment. I will plan for weeks and he will plan that day or on the spot. For the most part we still get my needs met.  The important part is I understand he is not doing this to hurt me or do things differently on purpose, he is a different person and we go about things in completely different ways.

Where you get into trouble…

At time with someone that thinks or acts differently, you may get upset about the way they are doing things. Ask yourself this the next time you get upset… is your partner is trying to make you upset or are they just doing things their way? I am assuming it’s just that he/she is doing things their way and you want things done your way.

Have you ever been out and see a couple where one person is super dressy and the other is casual? Were there expectations to the evening that weren’t communicated?  Both partners wanted something and had an idea on how to have fun, just very differently.

The most important way to deal with opposites is to communicate.

Ask your partner if they are trying to upset you by doing things differently? Get to know their personality and whom every is better at something, they should be put in charge of it. Enjoy the differences then you can say for sure that opposites do attract and they do work as a couple!