How are you? I’m getting ready for fall and I know when Halloween comes, the end of the year will be here in a snap.

Whether you celebrate the Jewish holidays or not, I would like to say Happy New Year. If you know what I’m talking about, have you figured out what you want to bring into the New Year and what you want to leave out?

For those that don’t know about the Jewish Holidays, let me explain how Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur work.

Basically, you get a reset button on all the “not so good” stuff you did last year. For one day, Yom Kippur, you fast and then all of your mistakes are forgiven. Sounds good, right?

Well, if only it was that easy to forgive your partner, right?

What if it is?

What if one day you decide to look for the good in your partner instead of the bad? What if you’re only going to remind yourself about why you fell in love with your partner today and everyday!

Wondering how? Try these.

I appreciate-
Everyday for a week, sit down and say 5 things you appreciate about your partner and then listen to them say it to you.

Stress reducing conversations–
After you say what you appreciate, talk about something that is bothering you and have your partner listen and then switch sides.

Rituals of connection–
How are you doing on your rituals? If you aren’t doing them anymore, how about starting them up again.

Love maps–
How well do you know each other’s world? Sit down and talk about your love maps and see how well you know each other.

Okay, all fixed?

Of course not. There’s going to have to be a mindset switch from negative to positive. Are you getting your needs met by your partner? If not, talk to them and figure out what needs to change. Yes, you’re both great parents, children, aunts and uncles but what about just focusing on being a great partner!

I’m going to use this time to make some changes for the positive and I hope you do as well!

Looking forward to hearing about the changes you decided to make!