Who’s busy today?  It’s Tuesday, not Monday, but it seems as each day of the week is busier than the next.  I know that for me, the weekdays are easier than the weekends because there’s a better schedule for me, but still, craziness at all levels.  

So how do you find time to have a great relationship? What does that even mean?

As a couples therapist, I have heard this phrase a lot, “We just don’t have the time to spend together.” Or, yeah, we travel, but our children/child is always with us.  How are we supposed to do things alone when we have so many other obligations?

Umm, anyone that knows me will know what I am about to say!

MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP YOUR TOP PRIORITY

I know what you are going to say about this?  Well, how about “me” time? Or who will get the kids to their activities, etc etc.  The list can go on and on with reasons that you can’t spend time together, but let me make this very clear by saying it again.

MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP YOUR TOP PRIORITY

There are a lot of excuses that you can make for not working on your relationship, but remember that if you don’t work on your relationship, it won’t just keep working.  

Here’s some things you can do in our fast crazy world to make time for each other!

• Dates – C’mon, you can do this! At home, during the day, at night, on the weekends.  Just do it!

• Rituals of Connections – Here’s the whole list of rituals of connection. Just pick a few and do them.

• Technology freeze – Put down those devices and just talk to each other, read together, listen to music together, take a bath together!

• Sneaky stuff – Act like you love each other. Kiss, hug and do romantic gestures when each other is least expecting it!!

• Talk it out – If your mad at each other, remember that you both love each other and you are both right! Talk it out and remember the good stuff!

I know, it’s hard to do

If it was easy, everyone would be doing it.  If you want something to work, please remember that you need to put effort into it.  Not only when things are bad. Put the effort in when things are good so they can stay that way!!

Can’t wait to hear how you prioritize your relationship!!