So, here’s the story you hear all the time. Two people meet, the attraction is so intense that they cannot keep away from each other and they have an affair, they cheat.  Okay, flash to reality and anyone that’s been involved in an affair knows that isn’t really how it happens.

Here’s a more likely story that you might relate to.So, you’re happily married for 10 years, you have children, both of you work and your life has been okay, mostly ups and not many downs.  Well, one day, your life seems boring, your relationship seems boring and you seem boring.  The same conversations that you’ve had for 10 years just don’t mean anything anymore.  One day, you just stop sharing about your day.  And then, one day you meet someone new and start sharing your day with them.

Guess what?  This is new and it’s exciting because someone new is listening and you get to share old stories with a new person.  You stop sharing at home and it barely gets noticed. So you start heading to lunch with this new person, then you meet for drinks then it turns into something more.

In all reality, most people that cheat don’t set out to cheat, they’re looking for a new connection, an interested person to listen to them and they get carried away.  If your relationship is solid you think this can’t happen to you, if you’re comfortable with your life, this couldn’t happen to you. But this is exactly what happens to you.  Infidelity has entered the relationship.

You and your partner need to find new ways to connect, to work on old connections and to build on them.  Go for different dates, make time for each other, notice when your partner is not talking to you, make an effort to get dressed for each other, say nice things to each other and yes, work on your relationship bit by bit, everyday, to keep the connection alive.

If you feel your partner is cheating, if you have that feeling in your gut, then talk about it and work things out. People can and do work on their relationship after an affair.  It can be done and it actually can make your relationship even closer than before.

Let’s talk and find a way to start reconnecting today!

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