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It is the Jewish New Year and that means you get to throw out your sins and start anew for this year.\u00a0 If it was only that easy.\u00a0 How do you throw out your mistakes?\u00a0 Better question is how do you learn from your mistakes.\u00a0 How many times have you been pulled over for a speeding ticket?\u00a0 Do you tell yourself that you will not EVER speed again! Ha, how long does that last you, a week a month, a day?\u00a0 So, what is the motivation to not repeat the same mistakes?<\/p>\n

If you are married or live with a partner I am sure you are always wondering when your partner will learn from their mistakes.\u00a0 Seriously, how many times can one person do something before it can change.\u00a0 I think the route of change is that the mistake has to be big enough and hurt enough in order to want to change.\u00a0 Take the speeding ticket, okay you had to pay it and it was not fun, but did it affect you for the long run?\u00a0 Does your partner\/spouse forgive your mistakes when you say you are sorry and will try to do better?\u00a0 If so, then where is the motivation to change?<\/p>\n

I am a believer that people can change, hence I am a therapist and talk to people all the time that want change in their lives.\u00a0 The people that come to therapy seeking change are the ones that do the best in therapy.\u00a0 It is the ones that want others or their environment to change that get stuck in the therapy room.\u00a0 Does not matter how you get to therapy, just matters what you do once you are there.\u00a0 The only person that can change is you and even if your motivation is driven by your spouse or partner, they cannot help you. If you lie and want help to stop lying it resides in you to change.<\/p>\n

So, I guess the moral here is that it’s not learning from your mistakes, its learning to change so you stop making mistakes or you fix those mistakes and find new ones to make!<\/p>\n

If you have any ideas on how to change or fix your mistakes please leave a comment.<\/p>\n

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It is the Jewish New Year and that means you get to throw out your sins and start anew for this year.\u00a0 If it was only that easy.\u00a0 How do you throw out your mistakes?\u00a0 Better question is how do you learn from your mistakes.\u00a0 How many times have you been pulled over for a…
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