{"id":868,"date":"2024-01-08T19:18:11","date_gmt":"2024-01-09T00:18:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/?p=868"},"modified":"2024-01-08T19:18:13","modified_gmt":"2024-01-09T00:18:13","slug":"healthy-conflict","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2024\/01\/08\/healthy-conflict\/","title":{"rendered":"Healthy Conflict Can Create a Healthy Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Healthy conflict seems like an oxymoron. After all, how can any type of conflict be good? While it may seem odd to say it, conflict in a relationship can be a good thing! You just need to know how to do it right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even though you and your partner mesh well and may share similar interests or hobbies, you are still two individual people. You may have a life together, but you also have your own things going on, such as careers or other obligations. Factoring all of this in, not knowing how to communicate with each other can be a recipe for disaster. <strong>All couples face these issues, especially the longer they are together.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you are tired of repeating the same arguments and tension cycles, healthy conflict can create a better relationship. Here\u2019s how to start.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How To Have Healthy Conflict In A Relationship<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Be Honest, But Not Cruel<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Let\u2019s face it: we all experience times when our partner frustrates us. They may do or say things we wish they wouldn\u2019t, or don\u2019t, for that matter. We get into little arguments over seemingly pointless and dumb stuff that really doesn\u2019t matter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When facing stress and tension in our lives, we often blurt out how we feel or what we think about a certain situation. While you should always be honest with each other, there are better ways to go about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It may seem elementary to say this, but think before you speak. Instead of saying the first thing that comes to your mind, pause and ask yourself, \u201cIs what I\u2019m about to say going to help the situation? How will my partner take this? Am I speaking from a place of honesty or anger?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Listen Without Needing to Speak<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>We all want to be seen and heard by the people in our lives. Keep this in mind: your partner feels the same exact way. While you are in a discussion about something or disagreeing, listen to them and resist the urge to speak. That means trying not to interrupt them until they are finished.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You should still try to give cues that you are listening, such as nodding your head or even saying something like, \u201cI understand.\u201d But you should only interject if what you are going to say shows you are really listening. You\u2019ll have time to say what you need to say!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Not interrupting each other can help conflict stay healthy instead of a screaming match when you are just talking over one another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Treat Each Other With Respect<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>When communicating with each other, remember that you should always be respectful towards your partner in how you speak to them. That means you should avoid things like name-calling, belittling, or blaming them outright.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Shifting your language can also go a long way to ensure conflict stays healthy. For instance, your instinct may be to say something like, \u201cYou never listen to me!\u201d Here, this can come off as accusatory and may cause them to become defensive. Instead, switch the language so it expresses how you feel. \u201cI feel as if you haven\u2019t been listening to me lately.\u201d It is saying the same thing, essentially, but the approach is less accusatory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How Therapy Can Help<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s not easy to admit that you or your relationship is struggling. If we\u2019re being honest, every relationship goes through ebbs and flows that test it. With that said, though, if you are finding yourselves in a toxic cycle of arguing, don\u2019t be afraid to<a href=\"http:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/contact-us\"> reach out <\/a>for help through<a href=\"http:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/therapy-services\/couples-therapy\/\"> couples therapy <\/a>or marriage counseling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can learn effective<a href=\"http:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/tag\/communication\/\"> communication <\/a>skills while getting to the root cause of the most tension and stress in your relationship.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Healthy conflict seems like an oxymoron. After all, how can any type of conflict be good? While it may seem odd to say it, conflict in a relationship can be a good thing! 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