{"id":856,"date":"2023-11-02T18:11:40","date_gmt":"2023-11-02T22:11:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/?p=856"},"modified":"2023-11-02T18:13:38","modified_gmt":"2023-11-02T22:13:38","slug":"sweeping-or-vacuuming","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2023\/11\/02\/sweeping-or-vacuuming\/","title":{"rendered":"Sweeping or Vacuuming?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Do you like to clean?&nbsp; Ugh have to admit, I kinda despise it. But I enjoy an organized house, not so much the deep cleaning.&nbsp; So you ask why am I talking about cleaning in my couple\u2019s counseling blog?&nbsp; Well who has heard the term:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Let\u2019s just sweep it under the rug<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>I meet way too many people in therapy that just do that and unfortunately I meet them when there isn\u2019t any room under that rug.&nbsp; How much room do you still have left under that rug?&nbsp; Do you sweep things away for a later date?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>People with attention problems know that when you leave something for later, you rarely go back to it.  In couples counseling, you can always go back and try to work on what isn\u2019t working.  You swept it under the rug and now it&#8217;s time to deal with it. 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