Happy summer to you! I sometimes talk about myself in sessions and I always get looks of relief to know that yes, I get mad at my husband, my kids, my family and YES, I am human. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here\u2019s the trick to anger, at least for me. It\u2019s really how you deal with it that is how you feel afterwards.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I\u2019m kind of a sensitive person and I take things to heart. I\u2019m also a giver and I love to make other people happy. I know these things about myself and I also know that I\u2019m a yeller and my husband is the quiet one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I really don\u2019t like being the yeller in the family. If you meet me, you wouldn\u2019t think I\u2019m the yeller so you know what I did one day? I decided I wasn\u2019t going to yell anymore! You ask me how I did that? I really didn\u2019t like the way I felt after yelling was over. Besides the fact that my throat was hurting me, I really didn\u2019t like who I was. Yes, I was a bit scary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So, how do you change something about yourself when you want to? Let\u2019s break it down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Know thyself!<\/strong> No blaming<\/strong> Less stress, more calm<\/strong> Trial and error Do you want to change how you deal with anything? If so, give me a shout and let me know.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I sometimes talk about myself in sessions and I always get looks of relief to know that yes, I get mad at my husband, my kids, my family and YES, I am human. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":714,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[28],"tags":[65,96,34,67,97,44],"class_list":["post-713","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-couples","tag-anger","tag-angry","tag-change","tag-communication","tag-couples","tag-self"],"yoast_head":"\n
I couldn\u2019t really do this if I didn\u2019t understand why I was yelling. I could blame my husband for this because he\u2019s the silent one and I need communication, but what good would that do. I had to really look deep into myself and figure out the reasons I was yelling. Once I did that, I was able to change the way I spoke when I got angry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As I just said, it\u2019s so easy to blame someone else. “Well, if they would talk more, I wouldn’t yell so much.” Nope, no way, that\u2019s not how it works. Nobody makes you do anything. If I want to change myself, I have to change myself. Changing the people around me is not going to work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I like to think I\u2019m a calm person, but if I’m yelling, am I really a calm person? Nope. So what can I do to calm myself when I feel like yelling? I can exercise, take some deep breaths, read, or anything to calm me down instead of yelling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/strong>Anytime you want to change something about yourself, it is tough stuff! Even if you know it\u2019s good for you to do, give yourself some breaks, please. We are so hard on ourselves and we need to be gentle. If you mess up, try again. Eventually, you will get it if you work hard enough on it.<\/p>\n\n\n\nSo, do I still get angry?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
<\/strong>Of course I do, it\u2019s part of life and I\u2019m only human. Do I yell still? Not so much and I feel as if I\u2019ve grown from it. Yes, it\u2019s possible to evolve if you want to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n