{"id":707,"date":"2019-06-04T10:09:07","date_gmt":"2019-06-04T14:09:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/?p=707"},"modified":"2019-09-27T10:52:45","modified_gmt":"2019-09-27T14:52:45","slug":"im-right-and-youre-wrong","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2019\/06\/04\/im-right-and-youre-wrong\/","title":{"rendered":"I&#8217;m right and you&#8217;re wrong!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>How many times have you had the argument that you were right and all you were doing was trying to prove your point? &nbsp;I know I have and I\u2019ve realized from being in a relationship for a while and all this training that I\u2019ve done or who knows, maybe it\u2019s just getting older and exhausted all the time, that <strong><em>WE<\/em><\/strong> ARE BOTH RIGHT!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Of course you are right about how you feel. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Of course your partner is right about how they feel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The question is how do you compromise when you both are RIGHT, umm, drum roll please\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here\u2019s the real deal. &nbsp;You are in a relationship, so instead of thinking of it as \u201cI need to win\u201d, how about we change the language to &#8220;<strong><em>WE<\/em><\/strong>&#8221; NEED TO WIN. &nbsp;That\u2019s really what it boils down to right? &nbsp;Who needs to be heard more?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here\u2019s how you both win.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Listening is key-<\/strong> So if you two are just talking over each other, you cannot hear what the other one is saying. &nbsp;So take turns talking and listening and who knows, maybe you do agree after all, you\u2019re just saying it in different ways.<\/li><li><strong>Temporary compromise<\/strong>&#8211; Okay, you\u2019ve done the listening thing and you still don\u2019t agree, then find some points that you do agree on and start there. &nbsp;There are usually a few points that you can both agree on, so use them as a starting point and talk about them.<\/li><li><strong>Passion and your core<\/strong>&#8211; Some people can just argue their point longer and better than their partner and usually the other one caves in. &nbsp;DON\u2019T DO THIS PLEASE. 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