{"id":690,"date":"2019-05-07T09:46:14","date_gmt":"2019-05-07T13:46:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/?p=690"},"modified":"2019-05-05T21:52:00","modified_gmt":"2019-05-06T01:52:00","slug":"workin-for-a-livin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2019\/05\/07\/workin-for-a-livin\/","title":{"rendered":"Workin&#8217; for a livin&#8217;"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Hope you\u2019re well. We\u2019re quickly approaching summer! &nbsp;Not sure about you, but it\u2019s been super busy around here and I\u2019m looking forward to the slower pace over the summer. &nbsp;We\u2019ve had a lot of travel for work lately.  My husband has had 3 business trips in the last 2 months and yes, I went to a Gottman Level 3 refresher course to get even more knowledge to help all of my couples! &nbsp;<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That\u2019s a lot of long distance time. I\u2019ve been in a long distance relationship in the past and they are a struggle. &nbsp;<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How do you manage when one or both of you is traveling for work? &nbsp;<br><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Do you do the same rituals of connection that you do when you\u2019re both home? &nbsp;It is easier or harder for you to stay connected?  <br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For us, it\u2019s much easier to stay connected when we\u2019re both in the same house and staying connected has been a work in progress, but I can say that we have nailed it! &nbsp;I wanted to share some tidbits on what I believe works.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>What&#8217;s Working<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Rituals of connections:<\/strong> \u00a0Yes, it\u2019s even more important to discuss about your day and work on those <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2015\/05\/26\/gottman-couples-method-rituals-in-relationships\/\">rituals<\/a> while you&#8217;re away. Now is a good time to create new rituals to help you throughout the day to stay connected.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Talk\/FaceTime everyday:<\/strong> In the past it seemed more important for my husband to FaceTime with our children than with me. &nbsp;We lumped our talks together.  Recently, we realized that talking to the kids was one thing, us chatting was another. &nbsp;Take some time and chat everyday.  Even it is for a few minutes.  But try to separate kid time and couples time if you can.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Nighttime:<\/strong> &nbsp;Say goodnight to each other even if it\u2019s through text or email. &nbsp;End the day and start the day with something to connect you.  I know these are rituals but they\u2019re the ones that I think are the most important.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Expectations: \u00a0<\/strong>Before the trip, talk about your and your partner\u2019s expectations about what the distance means to both of you. Understand that your needs are coming from a place of love, not so much of the place of nagging.  If knowing your partner is safe when they land, let them know. \u00a0If knowing if your partner is back in their hotel room, let them know.  <\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Talk it out: &nbsp;<\/strong>If something is bothering you, figure out a good way to express it and talk it out. &nbsp;Waiting for your partner to return will only lead to the build up and who wants that!<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Love languages: \u00a0<\/strong>Do you know what your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2019\/02\/12\/do-you-know-your-love-language\/\">love languages<\/a> are? \u00a0If you do, let\u2019s make sure both of them are being honored while you\u2019re apart from each other.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">I thought I&#8217; do the good and the bad<br><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Yea, but I changed my mind. \u00a0Let\u2019s just focus on what you can do to stay connected if one of you are away. \u00a0Remember how you <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2018\/03\/27\/how-do-you-check-in-with-your-partner\/\">stay connected<\/a> when you\u2019re at home and find something similar or create something completely new when you\u2019re apart. \u00a0Don\u2019t wait until your partner gets home to unload on them.  Stay connected and remember that your mental loads are both high.  If you\u2019re home, you\u2019re taking care of everything here, if you\u2019re away, you&#8217;re missing home and trying your best to do the best job you can do while you\u2019re away. \u00a0<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">And then come back together<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Make sure you reconnect instead of just going about your business as usual. &nbsp;Enjoy this time apart and who knows, you can use it to flirt, connect and just have fun together!!<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Happy traveling!!<br><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Ps. 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