{"id":682,"date":"2019-04-30T10:08:04","date_gmt":"2019-04-30T14:08:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/?p=682"},"modified":"2019-04-24T21:17:23","modified_gmt":"2019-04-25T01:17:23","slug":"extended-family-love-em-or-leave-em","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2019\/04\/30\/extended-family-love-em-or-leave-em\/","title":{"rendered":"Extended family, love ’em or leave ’em?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

I\u2019m always writing about things that I experience as well as things I find that will be helpful to you. \u00a0There are a few phrases that I repeat over and over again and this is one of them, \u201cWhen you become a couple everyone else is considered extended family<\/strong>.\u201d What does this mean to you or even me? \u00a0It becomes really simple when you think about an umbrella or even a roof over your head, walls around you and everyone else looking inside through a window. \u00a0Yep. what does that mean in real life to you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It means YOU always choose your partner<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What are some ways to protect yourself from fighting about extended families or even feeling stressed because you’re being pulled in too many directions?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s break it down here<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Choose me<\/strong>
Life becomes simple when you don\u2019t have a choice and you always know what to choose. \u00a0Choosing your partner, your children over your parents, or siblings makes it easier to have a closer relationship with your partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Talk about it<\/strong>
If either of you are having a hard time with your family, your partner\u2019s family or close friends, this is the ideal time to have one of those stress reducing conversations<\/a> and put some points in the emotional bank. \u00a0You have each other\u2019s back for sure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Back-to-back<\/strong>
When your partner is venting, it\u2019s a great time to have their back. \u00a0Meaning, don\u2019t get upset with them, just listen, be supportive and hold your upset emotions in.\u00a0 If you get upset as well, then it WILL lead to a different conversation or even a fight.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pick your battles<\/strong>
Let’s go back to the first rule about siding with your partner. \u00a0This will be something that you both will have to decide. If you or your partner has a family member that is upsetting, decide together what to get into with them and figure out together how to deal with it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Holidays<\/strong>
If holidays are fun for you with your families, great!\u00a0 If not, you both need to decide what it means to be a family and what you want to show your family. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hear me now! IT IS OKAY TO SKIP HOLIDAYS.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I put that in caps because I didn\u2019t want you to miss it.\u00a0 Enjoy your time with your family and your holidays should be enjoyable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Does this make sense? \u00a0If it does, then you need to work to figure out what part of this does, talk to your partner and decide together how to deal with it. \u00a0Don\u2019t make your partner the enemy. Don\u2019t take out your frustrations on your partner because of your family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

REMEMBER TO CHOOSE YOUR PARTNER!<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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