{"id":671,"date":"2019-04-09T21:44:48","date_gmt":"2019-04-10T01:44:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/?p=671"},"modified":"2019-04-09T21:44:51","modified_gmt":"2019-04-10T01:44:51","slug":"its-not-me-perhaps-its-not-you-either","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2019\/04\/09\/its-not-me-perhaps-its-not-you-either\/","title":{"rendered":"It&#8217;s not me, perhaps it&#8217;s not you either"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>I get a ton of calls and emails about counseling and I\u2019ve helped people out who aren\u2019t a good fit for me. \u00a0It gets a bit more complicated when you are looking for couple\u2019s therapy and then the conversation goes a bit deeper. \u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Let\u2019s see if we are a good fit to work together.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Not a Good Fit<\/strong><br><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>You are looking for someone that takes insurance &#8211;  <\/strong>Okay, here\u2019s my take on insurance. \u00a0With any insurance company they need a diagnosis. \u00a0Even if you are going to individual therapy, they will require a diagnosis. \u00a0Who thinks there\u2019s a diagnosis for couples\u2019 therapy?  There isn&#8217;t, but unfortunately, there still needs to be an identified patient and only one person gets billed. \u00a0Nope, not what I\u2019m into.  I&#8217;ll happily help you submit your receipts to get reimbursed, but that\u2019s up to you.  I&#8217;ll also suggest if you want to use your insurance, look at your insurance panel for people in your network!<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>If you are working on something that your not willing to share &#8211;<\/strong> I can only help you if you let me. \u00a0If you hide things from me and hide things from yourself, then therapy will not be a good fit and I especially will not be a good fit.  <\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>You&#8217;re not ready to change &#8211;<\/strong> Therapy only works if you want it to work. \u00a0If you&#8217;re coming to make your partner happy or thinking they&#8217;ll change because you came, then it won\u2019t work out for us.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Let&#8217;s Work Together<\/strong><br><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Ready, set, go &#8211;<\/strong> You&#8217;ve done the work to accept that things need to be different and you&#8217;re willing to make changes in yourself.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Regularity is the key &#8211;<\/strong> As with everything, the more you do it, the easier it is.  Practice makes perfect. \u00a0Why oh why do we not prioritize our own relationships and self-care?  If you&#8217;re starting therapy, let\u2019s make a commitment to set aside some time for it. \u00a0It\u2019s just an hour of your day and it\u2019s so very cool when you&#8217;re present and ready to work!<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>You&#8217;re ready but your partner isn\u2019t &#8211;<\/strong> \u00a0Being happy or even content in your life has nothing to do with anyone else. \u00a0If you&#8217;re ready, pick up the phone and make an appointment.  If you&#8217;re not, then don\u2019t. \u00a0If you&#8217;re waiting for the right time, I can tell you there is no right time.  Let\u2019s do this.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">I\u2019m interested helping, right?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>There are a ton more reasons to work together than not. \u00a0I\u2019m only interested in helping people become better versions of themselves or remember why you fell in love with all those lovely quirks but now they annoy you.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you make the decision to go to therapy, it should be a huge relief because now you have someone that can help you understand all those things that you don\u2019t understand yourself. \u00a0Shew, sounds good right.  Hope so, let\u2019s put the NOT\u2019s aside and thing of the reasons to do this.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Look forward to connecting soon.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you&#8217;re wondering if therapy is right for you, here\u2019s a quiz to take <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/quiz\/relationship-need-counseling\">https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/quiz\/relationship-need-counseling<\/a><br><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I get a ton of calls and emails about counseling and I\u2019ve helped people out who aren\u2019t a good fit for me. \u00a0It gets a bit more complicated when you are looking for couple\u2019s therapy and then the conversation goes a bit deeper. \u00a0 Let\u2019s see if we are a good fit to work together&#8230;.<br \/> <a class=\"read-more magicmore\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2019\/04\/09\/its-not-me-perhaps-its-not-you-either\/\">Read More<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[28,8],"tags":[67,97,133,3,90],"class_list":["post-671","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-couples","category-therapy","tag-communication","tag-couples","tag-insurance","tag-therapy","tag-working-on-your-relationship"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v26.9 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>It&#039;s not me, perhaps it&#039;s not you either - Face to Face Therapy<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2019\/04\/09\/its-not-me-perhaps-its-not-you-either\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"It&#039;s not me, perhaps it&#039;s not you either - Face to Face Therapy\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"I get a ton of calls and emails about counseling and I\u2019ve helped people out who aren\u2019t a good fit for me. \u00a0It gets a bit more complicated when you are looking for couple\u2019s therapy and then the conversation goes a bit deeper. \u00a0 Let\u2019s see if we are a good fit to work together.... 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