{"id":655,"date":"2019-03-12T09:25:38","date_gmt":"2019-03-12T13:25:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/?p=655"},"modified":"2023-03-13T20:12:45","modified_gmt":"2023-03-14T00:12:45","slug":"who-are-you-talking-to","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2019\/03\/12\/who-are-you-talking-to\/","title":{"rendered":"Who are you talking to?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Who knows that my passion is working with affairs? &nbsp;The reason this has become my passion is because I see how much time and effort couples put into their relationship when they work through an affair. &nbsp;<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>YES<\/strong>! &nbsp;You can successfully work through an affair.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019ve had a few conversations lately with people who didn\u2019t really think they were having an affair. Of course it makes me wonder&#8230;<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">So what is an emotional affair? &nbsp;<br><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>By definition, the term emotional<a href=\"http:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/category\/infidelity\/\"> affair <\/a>is used in the media to categorise or explain a certain type of relationship. High levels of non-sexual emotional<a href=\"http:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/tag\/intimacy\/\"> intimacy <\/a>in adults may occur without the participants being bound by other intimate relationships or may occur between people in other relationships. (<a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Emotional_affair\">Wikipedia<\/a>)<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Okay that\u2019s the Wikipedia definition. &nbsp;I define emotional<a href=\"http:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/category\/infidelity\/\"> affairs <\/a>as anyone that you\u2019re talking to outside of your relationship that you enjoy talking to more than your partner.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Let\u2019s break down some areas where the line gets shady on emotional affairs<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Texting only &#8211;<\/strong> Can you really be cheating if you never meet someone in person? &nbsp;Do you smile when you get the texts?  Are you waiting to tell that person about your day? &nbsp;If so, yes you are <strong>CHEATING<\/strong>.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Hiding sex toys &#8211;<\/strong> You can cheat without involving anyone else with sex toys by hiding them from your partner. &nbsp;If you wait until your partner leaves to pleasure yourself, then you are withholding info from them.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>It\u2019s just lunch &#8211; &nbsp;<\/strong>Let\u2019s say you have lunch with someone each week and you keep it casual, but you don\u2019t share with your partner because you think they\u2019ll get upset. &nbsp;Guess what?  They will get upset because you aren\u2019t sharing and the doubt creeps in.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Bye bye, going to the gym now &#8211;<\/strong> Do you exercise at the same time everyday? &nbsp;Is there someone there that you see all the time and you two have gotten to be friendly. &nbsp;Do you get excited at the idea of seeing them?  If so, this is an <strong>EMOTIONAL AFFAIR<\/strong><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Just remember that it wasn\u2019t always so hard to talk to your partner and if you stop talking to them, you will find someone else to talk to. &nbsp;Have the hard conversations.  Talk about your days.  Share your inner world and stay connected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As with everything I write, there is always more stuff to say and i do love it when you<a href=\"http:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/contact-us\"> reach out <\/a>and tell me what\u2019s going on in your life. &nbsp;If you have an alternate way to explain emotional affairs, let me know.  If you don\u2019t agree with me, then let me know that too.  <br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you think your partner is cheating on you, here is a quiz to take <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/quiz\/infidelity\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" aria-label=\"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/quiz\/infidelity (opens in a new tab)\">https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/quiz\/infidelity<\/a><br><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>YES!  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