{"id":642,"date":"2019-02-26T09:46:44","date_gmt":"2019-02-26T14:46:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/?p=642"},"modified":"2019-02-25T21:57:23","modified_gmt":"2019-02-26T02:57:23","slug":"sparking-joy-in-your-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2019\/02\/26\/sparking-joy-in-your-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Sparking Joy in Your Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Are you on the tidying up kick? \u00a0I\u2019ve always been on the tidying up kick so I\u2019m a bit amused by all this hoopla about this new show that tells how to tidy up. \u00a0I do love the phrase, \u201cKeep what brings you joy!\u201d  Pretty cool to think that you can find joy in things and only have what brings you joy in your life. \u00a0So, who\u2019s done it?  Who has rid themselves of all that evil in your life?  Do you only have folded clothes?  Did you donate a bunch of stuff that doesn\u2019t bring you joy? \u00a0If you did, are you filled with joy now?  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Umm, what\u2019s missing from this picture?  Let\u2019s talk about how to bring joy to your relationship!<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Yes, it\u2019s me not you &#8211;<\/strong> Next time you watch that show, go to that movie or anything, ask yourself if you want to do it or you&#8217;re doing it for your partner. \u00a0If it\u2019s just for them, let\u2019s redo this and find things that make you happy.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>You feel supported by household chores &#8211; <\/strong>Have you found a way to find peace with the laundry? \u00a0Do you enjoy sorting clothes?  If the answer is big <strong>NO WAY<\/strong>, then <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2014\/05\/29\/the-art-of-compromise\/\">hand that task off<\/a> and find ones that you can handle. \u00a0There is so much to do, make sure you&#8217;re doing the ones that work for you.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>I am an extrovert\/introvert &#8211;<\/strong> Which one are you? \u00a0If you are with someone who is the opposite of you (of course you are), you&#8217;re probably doing a lot of compromising on what brings you joy.  Find things to do that make you happy. \u00a0Go to the concert or stay at home for the day.  Don\u2019t wait for your partner to bring you joy, figure it out together.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Those kids are both of yours &#8211;<\/strong> Please split up<a href=\"http:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/category\/parenting\/\"> parenting <\/a>responsibilities. \u00a0Even better, have them do things on their own. \u00a0Children are supposed to be a joy, right?  Let\u2019s figure out a way to make them part of your joy.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019m going to stop there because this is about your joy, not mine. \u00a0I really want to focus on the fact there are no rules here.  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