{"id":610,"date":"2019-01-22T22:38:03","date_gmt":"2019-01-23T03:38:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/?p=610"},"modified":"2019-01-16T22:43:03","modified_gmt":"2019-01-17T03:43:03","slug":"should-i-stay-or-should-i-go","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2019\/01\/22\/should-i-stay-or-should-i-go\/","title":{"rendered":"Should I Stay or Should I Go?"},"content":{"rendered":"

We\u2019re into the month of January, so how are those New Year\u2019s plans coming along? Are you working on yourself? Are you thinking about going back to school or changing jobs? Have you been thinking about your relationship lately and how it\u2019s going? How often do you think about leaving your relationship? What are your motivation for staying?<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s break down the reasons to stay or leave<\/h2>\n

Reasons for staying!<\/h3>\n

Love –<\/strong> Okay, I picked an easy one to start with. Yes, but do you still love your partner? If you do, then staying is an easy decision to make because whatever\u2019s going on doesn\u2019t seem so bad compared to how you feel about your partner.<\/p>\n

Compatibility<\/strong> – Do you agree about the big stuff? Are you able to find shows to watch together? Is picking dinner a battle? If you agree on the big stuff, then that is something to really think about when you’re looking at the big picture.<\/p>\n

Communication<\/strong> – How well do you communicate? Do your needs get met? If they do, that\u2019s golden and to me, that\u2019s the #1 reason to stay. If you and your partner communicate well together, you are set for life!<\/p>\n

Work well together<\/strong> – Have you been talking forever about things and they don\u2019t get resolved or have you seen improvements on the thousands of things that need to change? If you\u2019re both working on things and willing to keep working on them, that\u2019s the real deal right there!<\/p>\n

Reasons for leaving!<\/h3>\n

Children\/family<\/strong> – So, are you wondering why I put this here? Staying for the sake of the children is a bad idea. Lots of people do it but some realize that they don\u2019t have to and their children will be okay if they are separated. Your children want you to be happy, not just for them but truly happy. If you cannot do that together then it\u2019s okay to separate.<\/p>\n

Abuse\/Addiction<\/strong> – I\u2019m going to put these two together because they have similar qualities to them. If you\u2019re with someone that has an addiction or is abusive to you and will not get help for themselves, then that\u2019s a reason to leave. It\u2019s okay to and you can do it!<\/p>\n

Changed directions<\/strong> – What about the situation that we hear about all the time that you drift apart. It happens. Life takes on new roles for people. If you weren\u2019t working on staying connected and you\u2019re in new places in your life, then maybe splitting up is good for you or maybe you can try, up to you.<\/p>\n

No passion<\/strong> – Okay, we get it, together for 20 years, yes, the passion dies down, but what\u2019s left in its place? There needs to be something there to connect you two. If not, you\u2019re better off leaving.<\/p>\n

And what about infidelity?<\/h2>\n

Okay, not sure if you\u2019re wondering why i didn\u2019t add cheating to either of these lists? Since, affair <\/a>work is my passion and it\u2019s what I do, I can say that it falls into both categories depending on the situation and how it\u2019s dealt with. It\u2019s easier to leave, but so much more rewarding to stay and work through things.<\/p>\n

So, who agrees with my list? Anything I majorly missed? Reach out <\/a>jennifer@facetofacetherapy.com and let me know.<\/p>\n

And if you’re thinking about therapy, take this free quiz now https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/quiz\/relationship-need-counseling<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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