{"id":600,"date":"2019-01-15T10:10:49","date_gmt":"2019-01-15T15:10:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/?p=600"},"modified":"2019-01-08T16:10:59","modified_gmt":"2019-01-08T21:10:59","slug":"its-not-you-its-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2019\/01\/15\/its-not-you-its-me\/","title":{"rendered":"It\u2019s not you, it\u2019s me"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hi and hope are doing well! I get on these kicks and my clients know that and put up with me and I want to share my last kick with you as well. No, it\u2019s not you, it\u2019s me<\/strong>. Who really believes it when someone says this to them? Have you ever had a break-up in your life and you heard this phrase? If so, welcome to the club. This phrase can be so hard to hear and I have finally cracked the code on what it means to me and I just wanted to share with you!<\/p>\n

No, it\u2019s not you, it\u2019s me<\/strong> relates to the kick I\u2019ve been on that deals with what you can control.<\/p>\n

What you can control breaks down to this:<\/p>\n

What you do<\/strong><\/em> and How you react<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Seems pretty simple right, but how does this affect your relationship? Well, how many times have you blamed your partner for getting you upset? Have you really looked at those times and asked yourself, hey self how could I have reacted differently or what should I do differently next time?<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s break this down even further to what really changes a conversation to a fight. It\u2019s called triggers and those are the things that really prevent you from controlling how you act and how you react. I can be the calmest person, but if I get triggered, watch out, either relationship tiger or mama bear can come out and attack at any moment.<\/p>\n

What are some triggers and how do we notice them?<\/p>\n

What Triggered Me…<\/h3>\n