{"id":512,"date":"2018-06-04T09:46:26","date_gmt":"2018-06-04T13:46:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/?p=512"},"modified":"2018-08-28T13:29:47","modified_gmt":"2018-08-28T17:29:47","slug":"relationship-load","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2018\/06\/04\/relationship-load\/","title":{"rendered":"Relationship Load"},"content":{"rendered":"

What’s Relationship Load?<\/h2>\n

I read a really good article the other day about how much we take on in our lives and how it can overload us to the point where we can’t do simple tasks.\u00a0 Why do we do this to ourselves?\u00a0 I think the need for “underloading” has come and I think there’s also a need to underload in your relationship as well.<\/p>\n

What the heck am I talking about when I say underload in your relationship?
\nI have talked time and time again about the following:<\/p>\n

Fighting<\/h3>\n

Did you think I was going to say stop fighting<\/a>?\u00a0 That\u2019s not funny at all.\u00a0 Realistically you’re going to fight.\u00a0 Just fight about what is at hand.\u00a0 If you’re bringing everything your partner’s done in the past few years into it, stop it and refocus on what is really bothering you right now. Then make up quick so you can have some peace in your life.<\/p>\n

Dating<\/h3>\n

Will you please ask each other out on dates<\/a>?\u00a0 Switch off, plan things, get a babysitter or switch off with another family, have dates at home, whatever it takes, but just spend time together.<\/p>\n

Break Time<\/h3>\n

As great as it is to date and enjoy each other company, it’s equally important to spend time alone and\/or with friends.\u00a0 Trust me, you’ll learn to appreciate your partner more when you’re apart than when your together!<\/p>\n

Schedules<\/h3>\n

Throw out the rulebook and the thought that you do more than your partner.\u00a0 For the most part, you’re both stressed to the max and doing a lot.\u00a0 Go over the schedules and see who’s going to do what that week<\/p>\n

Meals<\/h3>\n

Cook meals together.\u00a0 Eat them together.\u00a0 Plan them together.\u00a0 If you’re too busy to plan and cook, then look into a meal delivery service and enjoy time together by connecting when eating.<\/p>\n

Children<\/h3>\n

Both of you love your children the same. If you’re doing more than you can handle, talk about it and work on a different schedule than you have.<\/p>\n

What’s Your Load?<\/h2>\n

Your relationship load should be only as much so you can still enjoy your partner.\u00a0 If you’re not enjoying each other then it\u2019s time to stop, understand that you’re overloaded and do something different.<\/p>\n

Take that load off and enjoy quality time together!<\/p>\n

If you’re wondering if your communication <\/a>is on target, take the communication\/intimacy quiz<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s talk if you have anything to add. Looking forward to hearing from you!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

What’s Relationship Load? I read a really good article the other day about how much we take on in our lives and how it can overload us to the point where we can’t do simple tasks.\u00a0 Why do we do this to ourselves?\u00a0 I think the need for “underloading” has come and I think there’s…
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