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If you have ever been in my therapy office, you would have heard me say these words…<\/p>\n

“If\u00a0you are thinking about it, then say it!”<\/strong><\/p>\n

Communication is so important in a relationship and the only way the relationship moves forward. I have had couples come to me and say that the true meaning of love is being able to finish each other’s sentences. I tell them that leads to assumptions and fights!<\/p>\n

I think we have all been out to dinner and see couples who just do not talk and when things are good, you joke with each other that will never happen to us! Well, fast forward a few years with life, stress, family and all the other things that can come into your life you are now that couple that has nothing to say to each other. What do you do?<\/p>\n

My clients will tell you that I am constantly giving them tips on how to communicate to avoid a fight and here is a communication <\/a>exercise that I gave to a couple recently and I thought I would share it with all of you.<\/p>\n

How do you start talking when all you have been doing is fighting and talking about kids, house, etc? I call this the communication <\/a>game. You and your partner pick different topics to talk about each night. Some of the ones we came up with are:<\/p>\n

    \n
  1. Humor<\/li>\n
  2. Family<\/li>\n
  3. Goals<\/li>\n
  4. Intimacy<\/li>\n
  5. Emotions<\/li>\n
  6. Listening<\/li>\n
  7. Board game night<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    These are just examples on how you can start communicating again. Try doing this for 15 minutes each night. If you need to add a fight night, then do so, if you need to add 2 fight nights then that’s okay as well. The trick is to get talking and reconnecting as a couple.<\/p>\n

    As always, your feedback is greatly appreciated!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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