{"id":192,"date":"2014-06-10T12:48:51","date_gmt":"2014-06-10T16:48:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/?p=192"},"modified":"2019-02-27T09:22:30","modified_gmt":"2019-02-27T14:22:30","slug":"how-to-turn-a-negative-into-a-positive","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2014\/06\/10\/how-to-turn-a-negative-into-a-positive\/","title":{"rendered":"How to turn a negative into a positive"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I have the pleasure of working with great minds and I get to help make them even better.&nbsp; I have an amazing client who went through a terrible break-up and she was able to turn this situation into a positive learning experience with my help of course!<\/p>\n<p>Her and her boyfriend decided to move in together and he did not tell his close knit family about his move until after it already happened.&nbsp; His family blamed her and made her into a &#8220;scape goat&#8221;.&nbsp; She took the blame and tried to make the situation better but by doing that it only made it worse so she changed directions contacted a therapist and started working on herself.&nbsp;The first thing we decided together was to stop trying with his family and it worked and her and her boyfriend decided to break-up for&nbsp;a lot of reasons but mostly because of the situation with his family.<\/p>\n<p>She went through the stages of grief and finally felt better.&nbsp; At that&nbsp;time I asked her to&nbsp;write a list of all the positives that came from her break-up and her experience with his family.&nbsp; This is what she came up with.<\/p>\n<div>-the situation between&nbsp;my boy friend&nbsp;and his family over him moving out was NOT my fault.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-I learned that people have a hard time dealing with the truth and will try to find a scape goat if possible.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-I deserve respect no matter what the circumstance is.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-I want someone who is a person of actions not just words.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-I&#8217;ve learned to be compassionate with myself.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-It is okay to not be okay.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-It is okay to cry and let everything in me feel the hurt and let go.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-Maintain my own happiness and not let anyone get in the way of that<\/div>\n<div>-Show forgiveness and kindness towards others even when they are mean<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-Rise above a fight, I am better than that.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-I do have a family and I love them very much.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-I am not a bad person<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-I am a fighter<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-I have learned to be more patient with others<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-I have grown up in the face of a bad situation<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-Learned how to voice my needs more clearly<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-Learned how to listen<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-Learned that &nbsp;I want a man who will protect me against anyone\/ anything who tries to harm me<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-Accept mistakes and apologies<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-I love myself for who i am and what i have been through<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>-I am determined to be better and stronger than when I first went into this situation.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>We went through this list and I felt it was so powerful and asked if I could share with all of you so you can understand that the worse the situation is the more you can learn from it and you can rise above and become a better person for it.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Has anyone else used an experience to become a better person?<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I have the pleasure of working with great minds and I get to help make them even better.&nbsp; I have an amazing client who went through a terrible break-up and she was able to turn this situation into a positive learning experience with my help of course! 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