{"id":189,"date":"2014-05-29T18:48:59","date_gmt":"2014-05-29T22:48:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/?p=189"},"modified":"2019-01-31T11:01:19","modified_gmt":"2019-01-31T16:01:19","slug":"the-art-of-compromise","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.facetofacetherapy.com\/blog\/2014\/05\/29\/the-art-of-compromise\/","title":{"rendered":"The Art of Compromise"},"content":{"rendered":"

I have been thinking about compromise lately because as a marriage and family therapist I have the pleasure of working with couples and one problem that some couples have is compromise.\u00a0 To really compromise it is not about one person winning and the other losing its about both people getting what they really want.\u00a0 Let me explain through an example:<\/p>\n

In this relationship one partner is a doer and one is a thinker\/planner.\u00a0 When things need to get done the doer wants it done and the planner\u00a0wants to plan.\u00a0 Neither way is wrong and it is actually healthy to have that mix in their relationship in order to function but as you could guess it causes lots of arguments.\u00a0 When the doer wants something done lets say fixing a shower door.\u00a0 Where should the compromise be in this?<\/p>\n

To fully compromise the doer should get a date that it can be done by and the planner can give that date and do the research to make it a great job!\u00a0 Both get what they want which is a shower door and neither have to fully compromise on who they are.\u00a0 That is the basis of all of this, is that when you are compromising who you are meaning giving in too much you loose yourself in your relationship.\u00a0 Communication <\/a>needs to be changed and compromise needs to be mutually beneficial to both parties in the relationship to avoid all of those conflicts that couple’s love to have!<\/p>\n

Compromise and communication <\/a>are the main components of making a relationship work.\u00a0 Can anyone think of any other components that make a relationship work?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I have been thinking about compromise lately because as a marriage and family therapist I have the pleasure of working with couples and one problem that some couples have is compromise.\u00a0 To really compromise it is not about one person winning and the other losing its about both people getting what they really want.\u00a0 Let…
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