I stay in the present, I am a Solution-Focused Therapist.\u00a0 What does this mean?\u00a0 When I was in school, I was told I had to define my therapy type because people would ask.\u00a0 I never really wanted to do this, but sure enough when I went for my first interview, I was asked my therapy style.\u00a0 My answer as always been “Do I need to have just one?”\u00a0 I believe in a few different therapy styles which are collaborative, narrative and solution-focused but since I have been doing this for a few years, I have gathered that I am mostly solution-focused because that is my personality!<\/p>\n
I am a half glass full kind of gal and can always find the exception in the bunch because there always is.\u00a0 Instead of talking about all the “bad” stuff in your relationship, lets talk about the “good’ stuff.\u00a0 There is of course more bad than good when you come to a therapist’s office but a great way to get people talking about the good stuff is to ask them how they met.\u00a0 Ah, if only we could savor that beginning of our relationship forever.\u00a0 I find that question so refreshing for people and it helps them get to talking on a positive note.<\/p>\n
One of the main parts of solution focused therapy is the “miracle question”\u00a0 this is when you ask someone if they fell asleep and a miracle happened over night, what would be the first thing they see?\u00a0 This also gets people talking about positive stuff and trying to make changes.\u00a0 Scaling is a major part and I like to use scales especially with couples so I can engage them on how they are feeling separately but also together.\u00a0 Both of these tools are great for staying positive.<\/p>\n
Another part of this great therapy style of mine is staying in the here and now.\u00a0 Why is it that we need to work on the past?\u00a0 My answer to this is “If it is in the past then it should stay there, it if is affecting you now then lets talk about it.”\u00a0 The past is not considered the past if you are still dealing with issues from it, so lets get working on it and push it aside back into the past!<\/p>\n
I find this method to be refreshing and necessary to get to the bottom of the issue as quickly as possible because after all, isn’t that the common goal for both of us!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"